Common Elderly Care Conflicts in Families in Charlotte, NC

Few things bring up family conflicts like elderly care. Being an elder care provider can bring out the best in you, but it can also bring out the worst in your relationships with your siblings and other family members. This is especially true if several members of the family want to have an input in the elderly care decisions that impact your aging loved one. While many of the family conflicts that arise due to disagreements over elderly care decisions are actually rehashing and re-appearances of pain and conflict from the past, other conflicts can arise over family members not seeing an elderly care situation from the same perspective.

Elderly Care in Charlotte, NCSome of the most common family conflicts that arise in elderly care situations include:

  • Disagreements as to whether a senior should remain in his own home or transition into an assisted living facility for nursing home
  • Disagreements over who should be the primary caregiver for a senior
  • Disagreements over the fair division of responsibility among siblings
  • Disagreements over the financial responsibilities of siblings
  • Disagreements over the legal aspects of elderly care, particularly in terms of the establishment of a Power of Attorney

These disagreements can quickly escalate to heated conflicts that may result in long-lasting resentment and broken relationships. It is important to understand that while providing elderly care for an aging loved one is exceptionally stressful, taking the stress and frustration out on your siblings, or allowing them to take theirs out on you, is not only not healthy, it is not productive nor helpful to your aging parent.

Some of the ways that familial conflicts can be overcome include:

  • Agree to share responsibilities equally among the siblings. It is important to understand here that equally does not necessarily mean that each of the siblings provides care for the same number of hours per week, or offers the same amount of financial support. Dividing responsibilities equally means evaluating the individual capabilities of each sibling and agreeing that all will offer equal support commiserate to these capabilities.
  • Include your aging parents in the conflicts. This does not mean making them the middle of your arguments or even exposing them to heated exchanges. This simply means expressing to your parents the problems that have arisen among the siblings and asking for guidance.
  • Hire home care services to care for your parents. Bringing in an unbiased third-party to provide elderly care for your aging parents on a regular basis can take the pressure and responsibility off of all of the siblings so that none feel as though they are being ignored or taken for granted.

If you or someone you know needs help with elderly care in Charlotte, NC contact the caregivers at Affordable HomeCare. We provide quality and affordable senior care for many disabled and elderly loved ones in our community. Call us at (704) 323-5454  for more information.

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About Ted Nagraba

I am the Owner of Affordable HomeCare of Charlotte, North Carolina. Affordable HomeCare provides an alternative to the traditional solutions of nursing homes or other retirement institutions. Now, even with physical limitations, you can live the most independent and enjoyable life possible. With our personalized live-in or hourly care, you can continue to live in the comfort of your own home.